Sunday, 4 March 2012

Crossing Off The To Do List

So maybe I really do not understand what a blog is about. A few comments on my first blog was that it did not say enough, did not have enough meat, thought process was not fulsome enough, and persons were not sure if I had anything to say at all. I re-read my friend's blogs and began to question my ability to continue this blog. Just starting it was a victory in itself as it was something on my to do list for years that I just had not gotten around to doing. And that got me thinking. How many of us have a to do list? Not the regular Saturday running around list, but a list of things we would like to accomplish/do that we think will give us a sense of being/happiness?

Regular Saturday Running Around List

Life is what it is. A series of mundane tasks that get us from day to day. From going to the supermarket, to picking up the dry cleaning and buying the new pair of tights your daughter needs for dance class. Especially if you have children. It is always something. But at the end of the day what have you accomplished for you?

As I grow older, I am more and more realizing that if I am not healthy (both physically and emotionally) then I am of no use to anybody. A realization that struck me around 6 years ago when one of those catapulting life moments hit. It was then and there that I knew I wasn't living for me. I was going about my day doing what was expected. But what was expected was not making me happy. So I wrote a list of things that I wanted to do before I depart from this earth. Here are some of those things I will share with you.

  1. Write a song
  2. Blog
  3. Write a book
  4. Live in a Spanish speaking country
I have written that song. Recorded it on my phone and sent it to my brother-in-law to have it produced. It has not been produced but guess what? It is one thing I have crossed off my list and it feels wonderful. I am now empowered to continue. I was emboldened. I sent a phone recording of me singing (and I did not make my High School choir) to persons other than my immediate family. I now had the confidence to do it all. So I started to blog and the first lines of my book are on a sheet of paper.

Just crossing the first item off my to do list was the catalyst I needed to go on. If we all stop and take the plunge, write a to do list that reflects who we truly are, then crossing off the items one at a time, no matter how long the time between each item takes, we will become closer to living our true persona.

I will now leave you with a few lines of my song. Whether or not it is actually produced is not important. The fact that I wrote it and sent it to different people is all the self actualization I need. Self actualization ... that is for another blog.

You do what you have to
In a world where you don't fit in
You do what you have to
When you know your life depends

On playing it safe
To stay in the race
Take care don't fall on your face
Oh the disgrace ...

Love and blessings.

Toni Yolande Spencer


  1. I really, really enjoyed this post, T. It was honest, vulnerable and straight from your heart. I had no idea...Keep on crossing them off.


  2. TMac...this post is good. It has got me thinking about a to do list for ME. What do I want to achieve...we all know that I would like to create a safe, healthy, happy mental and physical environment for my children....ensure that they have a good education and grow up to be well balanced happy individuals who are able to fend for themselves and make a meaningful contribution to society... BUT for me as me...what do I want to do...You have given me food for thought. This needs to be discussed over drinks.